I Don’t Want to Go to Kindergarten! – How to Handle Morning Refusal

This week, it was Sunday, and the morning started with a complete refusal. “I don’t want to go to kindergarten!” The child cries, and I feel how it also pulls me down. The refusal to go to kindergarten is a moment that brings up many emotions – both for the child and for us.

Adlerian Principle: Refusal to go to kindergarten often stems from feelings of insecurity or fear of separation. As parents, we need to help the child find security in the situation and strengthen his independence.

Handling Kindergarten Refusal:

1. Prepare in Advance: The evening before, prepare him mentally for the next day. Share with him what will happen and who he will meet at kindergarten.

2. Give Him a Role: Allow him to choose something small to take with him to kindergarten – like a favorite toy – to feel a connection to home while he’s there.

3. Share Your Feelings: Let him understand that you sometimes feel longing during the day too. “It’s hard for me to say goodbye to you too, but I know you’ll have a wonderful day there, and we’ll see each other later.”

Over time, the child’s ability to cope with separation improves, and he learns to build confidence in himself and his environment. It’s a journey, but you’re there with him every step of the way